Judging people is very much frowned upon in our society. Holding people accountable for behaving in a way that is uncouth or goes against societal norms or expectations will make people look at you as if you’re breaking an unspoken law. The response that most people get when they are said to be judgmental is becoming subjected to judgment from others. The bottom-line is that people don’t like being judged by other people. People do not like to be held accountable for their actions because they’re afraid that they will fall short of their own expectations. In 2018 people are even more sensitive to scrutiny, opinions, and critiques. We have to start being more open minded and learn how to accept judgment and criticisms if we want to keep pushing the culture forward.
Judging people keeps them in line and focused. You can be judgmental without being disrespectful to whomever you’re talking to. You have to communicate clearly so that the person on the receiving end remains open to what it is you’re trying to tell them. You can’t stand by and let your friends make terrible music. Judge them honestly without being a “yes” man or woman. That is why Rappers put out sub-par music or begin having mental health concerns. Not telling your friend they’re wrong is wrong and you aren’t a good friend. If you feel like you can’t be a real friend to someone than that relationship is not feasible. I know a lot of you are probably pointing a finger at me now saying “you’re not perfect” but that’s what gives me and you the gall to tell someone when they’re falling off or looking crazy. We’ve been there! We all know right from wrong yet we glaze over behaviors that are self-deprecating.
If someone is judging you because you held up a mirror to their face don’t turn away. Confront your own issues so they won’t feel belittled or berated. If someone sees you working on your personal issues or behavior they’ll make an effort to improve their own behavior or personal issues. We all have personal issues that dictate our behavior whether we want to acknowledge it or not. We cannot continue to walk on eggshells because we’re afraid to say anything to each other. After a while we’ll be outside in silence. Who are we to judge…just someone who cares about your best interest?
“Recollect your thoughts, don’t get caught up in the mix. ‘Cause the media is full of dirty tricks.” – 2Pac (Only God Can Judge Me)